ENFJ

8 May
Today my branch spent the day doing a Myers-Briggs Type Indicator (MBTI) workshop.  It was really fascinating to do this as a group and learn about the different personality types and how we can better work together.  For those of you not familiar with it, the MBTI is a questionnaire designed to help people identify their personality type, as defined by Carl Jung’s theory of personality.  The questionnaire examines four dichotomies (Intraversion vs. Extraversion, Sensing vs. Intuition, Thinking vs. Feeling, Judging vs. Perceiving), which result in 16 different personality types.
 
I really had a hard time figuring out which of the 16 personality types I really fit into — actually, I was having trouble deciding among four.  The test I completed suggested one personality type, but when I read the description, I felt it was more the way I want to be than the way I really am.  Plus, on some of the scales, I only have a slight preference for one over the other, making it hard to decide which way I really was.  In the end, I settled on ENFJ – Extraverted, Intuitive, Feeling, Judging. 
 
Here’s the short description:
Warm, empathetic, responsive, and responsible.  Highly attuned to the emotions, needs, and moivations of others.  Find potential in everyone, want to help others fulfill their potential.  May act as catalysts for individual and group growth.  Loyal, responsive to praise and criticism.  Sociable, facilitate others in a group, and provide inspiring leadership.
One of the things I’ve been thinking a lot about is the concept of introversion vs. extraversion.  These words were, apparently, actually invented by Carl Jung, but his definition of them is different from how most of us use them in everday life.  The difference between the two is really about how we energize ourselves: an extravert gets energized by being with other people, while an intravert needs time to focus inward in order to feel refreshed.  This does not necessarily say anything about shyness.
 
Just within my family, is the perfect example of this.  I am an extravert.  I like being with people, hosting parties, gabbing with friends, and visiting.  However, if I am in a large group of people I don’t know I find that I can be extremely shy, particularly if those people already know each other, or if I have to function in another language.  Michael, on the other hand, makes friends more easily than I do and no one would ever call him shy.  However, I really think he’s an introvert.  At the end of a long day, he doesn’t want to talk… something that used to drive me nuts when we lived in Fort Liard, after I’d been home alone all day.  To relax, he would generally rather go hiking than phone up a friend.
 
They do say opposites attract, although they don’t say how those opposites sometimes have to adapt their behaviours in order to get along!  But there you go: shy extravert with bold introvert.  We must be a perfect match.
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5 Responses to “ENFJ”

  1. Peter May 8, 2007 at 4:33 pm #

    So is Rachelle! Mine is INTJ.

  2. Peter May 8, 2007 at 4:34 pm #

    Uh. Uuuups.
     
    That was me, commenting. Stupid Live Spaces.
     
    :(Peaeater
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  3. Nemmy May 9, 2007 at 4:14 am #

    I always thought those words were spelled with an "o". So I looked it up. Both are correct, but the funny thing is that the definitions of "extravert" in the Random House Dictonary is "extrovert." Which means you need to look it up with the "o"! LOL. I did that test once, if I remember correctly, but can\’t remember what I was. Definitely an "I"… a fairly outgoing "I," but an "I" nonetheless.

  4. Selena May 9, 2007 at 7:49 am #

    I\’ve done this, too. I\’m ESFJ. Heavy on the E and F, light on the J… 🙂 

  5. Fawn May 9, 2007 at 9:30 am #

    Cool!  I had done the MBTI before, too, but I couldn\’t remember what I was.  I seem to remember also having a hard time deciding that time, too.  That\’s probably the N coming out.  And I\’m definietly light on the J, too.  If it were stronger, my house might be cleaner!
     
    Michael protested my assessment of him — he thinks he\’s more of an E than an I.  Well, he\’s lived with himself longer than I have, so who am I to argue? 
     
    One of the interesting things we discussed at the workshop was how we can evolve over time.  On the one hand, the theory suggests that the personality type you\’re born with is the one you\’ll die with, but on the other hand it can gradually change, just as our arms and legs are always the same arms and legs we\’re born with, but they change over time.  Apparently it\’s very common for people who have very strong tendencies in any one of the trait pairs to move to the centre, so that we see a strong E slowly becoming a "lighter" E, or even becoming a slight I.  Michael acknowledged that he might be light on the E… maybe even to the point where he\’s actually light on the I.
     
    Anyway, fun stuff! 🙂

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